In continuation of yesterday's post and what an timely and apt quote to help me in my course correction....
"Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy - in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other"
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2/16/2012
2/15/2012
Can Love and Possessiveness be mutually exclusive?
Does Love and marriage give you right to control other person's freedom of thought and freedom of expression? Does marrying someone require you to forfeit for life your free will? Does the power someone gives us because they love us so much make us so conceited that we feel that we can (or rather need) to control other person's thoughts too?
Wasn't this very quality that attracted me in the first place – the way he can connect to other people so easily & effortlessly, his strong instincts that can within minutes of meeting someone can form a lasting bond, his free approach to everything around, his good instincts to help and cheer everyone he touches? So when did this conceited thought crept into me that now he is "married" to me - so for life he can only care like that only for "Me" (amongst females)?????? Can my thoughts become uglier than this? Who I am to control his thoughts and his instinctive behaviors and most important Why should I? It is something good he is doing – helping others. When has the gender of who is being helped become such an issue???????? I
I for me who strongly believe that gender/race/religion don't change the person and humanity is much above everything. Can I get more hypocrite than this????????
Yesterday was a big wake up call for me. For me to take stock of kind of person I am becoming. I can't control such thoughts but I very well control my reaction. Why I am feeling bad? Since when I have become so shallow a person that I have started thinking I "should" OWN a person – his thoughts, his kindness, and his expressions. For God's sake he is not doing anything bad or illegal that I feel this is my moral responsibility for his own good. He is just being HIMSELF – the person I fell in love with!!!!!!!!!!
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Wasn't this very quality that attracted me in the first place – the way he can connect to other people so easily & effortlessly, his strong instincts that can within minutes of meeting someone can form a lasting bond, his free approach to everything around, his good instincts to help and cheer everyone he touches? So when did this conceited thought crept into me that now he is "married" to me - so for life he can only care like that only for "Me" (amongst females)?????? Can my thoughts become uglier than this? Who I am to control his thoughts and his instinctive behaviors and most important Why should I? It is something good he is doing – helping others. When has the gender of who is being helped become such an issue???????? I
I for me who strongly believe that gender/race/religion don't change the person and humanity is much above everything. Can I get more hypocrite than this????????
Yesterday was a big wake up call for me. For me to take stock of kind of person I am becoming. I can't control such thoughts but I very well control my reaction. Why I am feeling bad? Since when I have become so shallow a person that I have started thinking I "should" OWN a person – his thoughts, his kindness, and his expressions. For God's sake he is not doing anything bad or illegal that I feel this is my moral responsibility for his own good. He is just being HIMSELF – the person I fell in love with!!!!!!!!!!
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2/06/2012
10/13/2011
We learn something every day .............
We learn something every day, and lots of times it's that what we learned the day before was wrong.
9/29/2011
Stockholm syndrome
Stockholm syndrome .. simply explained for all of us "IT Professionals"
I know for sure my husband would readily agree................... ;)
I know for sure my husband would readily agree................... ;)
6/22/2011
Farmville - found my little OASIS
Few months back one of my cousins hooked me on to Farmville. Generally I am not into online games but within no time I was addicted to this game. Initially it was plain and simple competition - a race to reach advanced levels. Gradually as I got a bigger farm it was day for spring cleaning :) So I decided to change the layout of farm - create a small garden, place cottages , main house, little ponds, ducks ,etc. (It is actually quite a fun. Wish in real life also we were able to rearrange everything in our life the way and when we want to do it................ )
Anyways I never knew that this simple activity would result in my own little oasis. I rearranged a corner of my farm into this little cute garden - with a pink cottage, ponds with ducks (and obviously ducklings), picnic benches, pink trees, apple trees, etc. And VOILA - suddenly I had my little oasis. A little place where I could so clearly visualize myself - on a nice sunny day, lying on the wooden bench head on harpal's lap, under shade of trees, along the little pond with a nice book. WOW even visualizing myself there is soooo relaxing.
Anyways I never knew that this simple activity would result in my own little oasis. I rearranged a corner of my farm into this little cute garden - with a pink cottage, ponds with ducks (and obviously ducklings), picnic benches, pink trees, apple trees, etc. And VOILA - suddenly I had my little oasis. A little place where I could so clearly visualize myself - on a nice sunny day, lying on the wooden bench head on harpal's lap, under shade of trees, along the little pond with a nice book. WOW even visualizing myself there is soooo relaxing.
So now have this little trick - in the middle of meetings, deadlines and mundanity of daily life - I escape into this little garden for my dose of relaxation. So if in middle of meeting if you see me contented with a blessed smile on my face - you know where I am :)
6/20/2011
Jalebis at Trevi Fountain
Roaming in rome (that has nice rhyme) we ran into 2 young Sikh boys.
Only a day before I was commenting to masi that I have not come across single Sikh tourist in Rome and were wondering if there is any gurudwara at Rome. We also realize that day after is gurpurab (Martyrdom of Guru Arjan Dev ji).
So we go and greet these guys for general courtesy chit chat. As we are about to leave one of the guy tells other to share some langer with us which he had brought from gurudwara. And we are offered jalebis :)
And in the middle of Rome (the eternal and spiritual city) (near Trevi fountain) we were "blessed" - just like that!
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Only a day before I was commenting to masi that I have not come across single Sikh tourist in Rome and were wondering if there is any gurudwara at Rome. We also realize that day after is gurpurab (Martyrdom of Guru Arjan Dev ji).
So we go and greet these guys for general courtesy chit chat. As we are about to leave one of the guy tells other to share some langer with us which he had brought from gurudwara. And we are offered jalebis :)
And in the middle of Rome (the eternal and spiritual city) (near Trevi fountain) we were "blessed" - just like that!
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| me and masi at Trevi fountain |
6/13/2011
Day of coincidences
Had a day of strange coincidences. Couldn't explain it .....
I had bought "Sophie's World" - A novel about the history of Philosophy by Jostein Gaarder few months back and though it is absolutely unlike me to read (an interesting book) in intervals , somehow couldn't find time to finish it. I started reading through as an when I got opportunity/time.(I have real bad habit of finishing a good book even if it means reading till wee hours of morning on a work day). I found this book extremely interesting but still somehow couldn't read through more than couple of chapters at one go.
So here I am in Paris for 1 month for work. I have brought this book with me and intend to finish it in this trip.
Yesterday I planned a trip to "Château of Versailles" and packed my ipod and picked up the book as I was leaving the door. I had originally planned to be there at 9 am so as to not to wait in queue for entrance (had booked ticket online too), but it wasn't till 11 am that I reached there. Almost had a heart attack looking at the long winding queues. There were hundreds of people waiting in the queue (and that was after buying tickets). No exaggeration , check out the pics for yourself.............
Anyways back to the topic - Coincidences! So waiting in the line, I remember the book I had packed ( I also want to mention that I really found it strange that by the time I have reached Renaissance period in the book, I was visiting Rome and Paris!) So I take out the book and continue reading........... and the page mentions about "Château of Versailles" and Louis XIV (page no 211 and 212). I really couldn't explain that - I wait for forever to buy a book I always wanted to read, then I take forever to finish it off and am reading the author mention about the same place I am standing at (5000 miles away from home). Can't explain it .......................................
Second coincidence - I am headed back to my hotel - as I enter the hotel my ipod is playing one of my fav songs - 'hai preet jahan ki reet jahan.............." (a b'ful song praising the contributions of India and abt what a great country it is ..). The friendly receptionist Jacob is on duty so he asks me how my day was and what I did, etc . Then as I am about to enter the lift he calls me and tells me that previous night he watched a program on BBC on India and that he thinks that India is a great country............ I just stared at him as if spellbound as the song played on my ipod..............................
I had bought "Sophie's World" - A novel about the history of Philosophy by Jostein Gaarder few months back and though it is absolutely unlike me to read (an interesting book) in intervals , somehow couldn't find time to finish it. I started reading through as an when I got opportunity/time.(I have real bad habit of finishing a good book even if it means reading till wee hours of morning on a work day). I found this book extremely interesting but still somehow couldn't read through more than couple of chapters at one go.
So here I am in Paris for 1 month for work. I have brought this book with me and intend to finish it in this trip.
Yesterday I planned a trip to "Château of Versailles" and packed my ipod and picked up the book as I was leaving the door. I had originally planned to be there at 9 am so as to not to wait in queue for entrance (had booked ticket online too), but it wasn't till 11 am that I reached there. Almost had a heart attack looking at the long winding queues. There were hundreds of people waiting in the queue (and that was after buying tickets). No exaggeration , check out the pics for yourself.............
Anyways back to the topic - Coincidences! So waiting in the line, I remember the book I had packed ( I also want to mention that I really found it strange that by the time I have reached Renaissance period in the book, I was visiting Rome and Paris!) So I take out the book and continue reading........... and the page mentions about "Château of Versailles" and Louis XIV (page no 211 and 212). I really couldn't explain that - I wait for forever to buy a book I always wanted to read, then I take forever to finish it off and am reading the author mention about the same place I am standing at (5000 miles away from home). Can't explain it .......................................
Second coincidence - I am headed back to my hotel - as I enter the hotel my ipod is playing one of my fav songs - 'hai preet jahan ki reet jahan.............." (a b'ful song praising the contributions of India and abt what a great country it is ..). The friendly receptionist Jacob is on duty so he asks me how my day was and what I did, etc . Then as I am about to enter the lift he calls me and tells me that previous night he watched a program on BBC on India and that he thinks that India is a great country............ I just stared at him as if spellbound as the song played on my ipod..............................
1/31/2011
Nice quote ;)
"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." Rita Rudner
11/13/2010
Policies and Processes
"How many of your policies are designed for the sole purpose of satisfying your sadistice tendencies?"
"All of them. Some of them are just more obvious."
- Alice & Catbert
Large corporations welcome innovation and individualism in the same way the dinosaurs welcomed large meteors.
Dilbert
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